Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud. It does not dishonor others,
it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,
it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Can I be honest? I really love being single right now. I love the opportunities that God is allowing me to be a part of and I love learning more about who I am. I’ve really enjoyed this season of life. But I’m not going to lie and say I don’t have those moments of anxiety when the ending credits of a rom-com are rolling through and I wonder whether or not “the one” for me really exists. Or that Valentine’s Day so thoughtfully decided to fall on a Friday night, reminding me that I am not only single, but also single with no plans…
Don’t let the world tell you that you SHOULD be spending this day sitting across from a handsome gentleman having a romantic, candlelit dinner. If that is you though, that’s awesome and I think that should be celebrated and enjoyed! You also don’t need to let the world tell you that you should be mourning in your pj’s with your two best friends, Ben & Jerry, if you aren’t spending this day with a guy! So who should you listen to? As I reflect on 1 Corinthians 13, I see the love Paul is describing has nothing to do with romance or roses. This love is about believing the best in others, forgiving well and serving out of a heart that is deep with joy.
For my fellow single friends, I think this would be the perfect night to open your home, share your table and enjoy one another’s company as you celebrate this kind of love. Let this be an intentional time where your phones stay tucked away and you share a meal with good conversation. Whether you have breakfast for dinner or make a bowl of pasta, I hope that you will use this time to speak life into others and to be present. Creating conversation cards beforehand is a great way to do so – here are some examples.
- If you could “steal” a strength from _______________, what would it be?
- If you wrote an autobiography, what would the title be?
- How is the Lord working in your life right now?
- What is a dream or vision you want to believe God for?
Allow Valentine’s Day to be a day about celebrating the love of 1 Corinthians 13. Celebrate the ones the Lord has placed in your life, celebrate the ways the Lord is moving in your midst and celebrate the ways you see the Lord growing and molding the hearts of your friends! Have a HAPPY Valentine’s Day!
Blake Snyder, Outreach Coordinator